May - 2009
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Every May we spend a day remembering those who we've lost to war. We honor their lives by considering the gift they gave us of freedom to live our own lives as we choose. In this issue of Engage we hear about ways we can use the gift of our lives for the sake of others. Whether we are spending our retirement caring for girls in Nepal, grieving with a friend in the midst of loss, or preparing ourselves to be available for those in need, our lives become an extension of those who came before us, and an encouragement for those who will follow. We hope these articles serve as an encouragement to you.
  
We hope you will share Engage with your family and friends.
 
Sincerely,
 
Institute on Aging
Helping Bay Area Seniors Live Independently
 
Olga Murray: An Encore Career 
 
olga murrayIn 1987 Olga Murray, then 62, was in the mountains of Nepal, engrossed in conversation with her trekking companions.

She slipped in the mud and broke her leg; an accident that was the beginning of her new life as a social entrepreneur.
 
In a Nepalese hospital, a doctor introduced her to a young girl whose legs had been severly injured. Murray learned that the girl's one wish was to attend school. She gave her a $300 scholarship to cover her education, opening the floodgates to new lives for each of them.
 
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Excerpted from Olga's Girls by Meredith May 
The San Francisco Chronicle, Sunday, February 8, 2009 
""End the kamlari system!" Murray shouted, raising her fist in the air.
 
In a form of trafficking concentrated among ethnic Tharu farmers, destitute families sell their daughters for $75, the equivalent of a third of their annual income, to work as live-in "kamlari" servants in the homes of higher-caste families.
 
Brokers from cities throughout Nepal come to the Tharu villages to negotiate or renew one-year kamlari contracts, fathers are making deals and advocates like Murray are trying to stop them.
 
Murray has a unique way of doing it. She offers a pig or goat to parents who promise not to sell their daughters. Families can make more than they get for their daughter by breeding or butchering the animal. If they accept, Murray will also pay the girls' $100 annual school expenses.
 
In the last eight years, 3,300 families have taken the deal. Nepalese charities replicating Murray's model have bartered another 1,700 girls out of slavery."

Read more...
 
Click to learn more about Murray's Foundation
Words on Grief, Loss & Love 
from the Bay Area Jewish Healing Center  
By Rabbi Eric Weiss, spoken at the BAJHC 5th Annual Gala celebrating An Evening of Laughter and Love 
 
 
bay area jewish healing centerNo matter our health, economic security, or stature, we all know that no one gets through life unscathed. None of us wants to become ill, but ill we become, none of us wants to die, but die we do, none of us wants to live in grief, but we do.

Illness, death and grief are not abstract. They are at the core of our soul's experience. Illness is knowing how dearly you yearn to do what you used to. Dying is ultimately mysterious to each of us, even at the last breath. Grief is that spontaneous reach for the telephone contracted back, knowing the person you want to call is no longer home.
 
These may all leave us lonely, but none of it can take away the love, the spiritual stirrings. Illness and death may take a body, grief may leave us speechless, but they cannot take away relationship. All because, stripped down to the core of who we are, it is the soul's expression that has its way:Love. Love in all of its complexity, love fulfilled, love dashed, love of life, love dreamed of... 
Community Events  
 
Presidio Community YMCA presents
"Outdoor Fitness" with Tina Vindum
Kick off your summer with an outdoor workout in the beautiful Presidio.  Led by national outdoor fitness expert, Tina Vindum, this event is free to the public, but registration is required.  All fitness levels welcome. 
When:  Saturday, May 23, 9:00 a.m., registration at 8:30
Where:  Presidio Community YMCA
corner of Lincoln & Funston in the Presidio
San Francisco, CA 
Cost: FREE 
For more information or to register, call Kate Sheppard, 415-447-9622.
 
Memorial Day Commemoration
Parade led by the 191st Army Band. Formal program features a 60-member U.S. Army Band including Pipes & Drums. Ceremony ends with a 21-gun salute by the U.S. Army's 5th Brigade 75th Division. Following the program, cemetery walks will be led by park rangers and costumed volunteers.  
When: Monday, May 25, 2009
10:30 am - parade at the Presidio Main Parade Ground
11 am - program at SF National Cemetery at the Presidio
Where: the Presidio
San Francisco, CA 
Info: www.presidio.gov/calendar

National Senior Health & Fitness Day
On the same day across the U.S., 100,000+ older adults will participate in health promotion events at more than 1,000 local organizations. Senior Health & Fitness Day, the nation's largest older adult health and fitness event, is entering its 16th year.
When: Wednesday, May 27, 2009
Info: For more information visit:
www.fitnessday.com 
 
Senior Center Without Walls
Games, Writing Workshops, Current Events, Armchair Travelers, Health Presentations, Support Groups, All on over the telephone and FREE! If it's difficult for you to go out to a community senior center, join these or any of our other activities - all from the comfort of your home.
Cost: FREE 
Info: For more information call our toll free number 1-877-797-7299 or visit www.SeniorCenterWithoutWalls.org

 
Volunteer Opportunity
 
Forest Stewardship
Help take care of newly planted trees. Volunteers will assist with weeding, mulching, and other stewardship activities.
When: Every 2nd Friday of the month, 9am to Noon  
Info: For information and meeting location, contact the Presidio Trust Volunteer Coordinator at (415) 561-5333 or volunteer@presidiotrust.gov

ENCOURAGE
 
Dear Encourage,
I have been feeling scattered lately with so much on my mind. I want to be available to everyone in my life: my daughters, my grandchildren, and my Bridge playing buddies, some of whom are dealing with stressful situations in their lives and they need comfort. I get a lot of satisfaction from helping others, but lately I have been feeling overwhelmed. A younger friend mentioned trying meditation as a way to stay calm and balanced. Is it too late for someone in their eighties like me to learn how to meditate?
 

Dear Altruistic One,
 
First of all, it is never too late to learn something new! In fact,  trying new things and doing something out of your normal routine can contribute to keeping your brain healthy.

In our hectic lives, meditation can serve as a calming and grounding exercise to reduce feelings of overwhelm. It is important to take time to be aware--awareness is what is meant by mindfulness. Most of the time we are so busy moving from one task to the next that we seem to be on "automatic pilot." We should call ourselves human doings rather than human beings! Mindfulness involves finding time to be awake to the unique beauty and opportunities that each present moment offers. Making some time in a day to quiet your mind is how you can begin a meditation practice.

Use the following phrases in this poem as a way to focus on calmness and on being aware of yourself now, not focusing on worries or other distractions.  Breathing in deeply and slowly, say to yourself the first line, "I have arrived." Breathing out, say to yourself, "I am home."   Try it for a few minutes:
 
I have arrived
I am home
In the here
In the now
I am solid
I am free
In a nurturing world
I dwell

The meditation above was taken from readings by Thich Nhat Hanh who is a Zen master, teacher, and poet. For more information on mindfulness and meditation, you may want to look through Jon Kabat-Zinn's books as well.

 
Do you have a question about engaging with life as a senior? Send it our way. Please note, questions may be printed but will be kept strictly anonymous. Click here to email us. Responses are provided by IOA's Janet L. Meiselman, PsyD.
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HERITAGE
 
 Every month we highlight a family tradition, such as a recipe, a craft, or a cultural holiday.  Please  suggest a tradition from your family!

This month's family tradition:
 
Memorial Day
Moment of Remembrance 
May 25, 2009
3 PM   

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The National Moment of Remembrance asks Americans to pause at 3PM on Memorial Day for 1 minute. Whether you are alone or with family and friends, you can honor those who died in service to our country. In this shared act we remember those who have passed, express gratitude and respect for their lives, and help younger generations understand the sacrifices made by those who have gone before them.

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